Ex Said He Never Wants to Talk to Me Again
Right I was with my ex for 11 months she's the mist perfect girl and well motivated in where she wants to get in life ... We argued subsequently she said she wasn't going to see me much crusade she needed revise for higher exams. I kicked off and broke up with her out of anger ... I automatically regretting it I asked for her back she said no I begged I pleaded and completely pushed her away now she'southward said she never wants as well see or talk to me again I've wrote out what things I tin can do to better myself but it's all in promise of getting her back she's really stubborn and I exercise dear her but what the hell do I do to win her back I would literally put my life on the line for this daughter and she wanted me to sort myself out for a long time equally I suffer from depression and I need a job ... I'one thousand willing to brand these changes and do whatever it takes... Should I go NC for a while? Work on myself then just evidence up one day? Please assistance me I'm hopeless right now
#ii
9 years agone
one thign u demand to understand, if the love is true and if she is meant for u , no matter wt, she sick come for u,,,,,for now take space, do not contact, after 2 months are and then try to workout
#3
9 years agone
Op listen to me now. Similar really.
Get strictly on NC. Avoid her. Ignore her. For a minimum of iv weeks.
Don't fifty-fifty tell her that you lot're going on NC. Leave her without any information on yous.
I'll tell you something about female psychology. Afterwards 3 to 4 weeks of NC, she will accomplish her loneliness tiptop. She will beginning missing you lot and forgetting virtually the bad things in your human relationship. After reaching this peak, she will either contact you, see how things are going on or y'all accept to contact her. In case she contacts you, it's PERFECT for you. In case you have to do information technology, you accept to act similar "aye i thought phoning y'all, merely to know how yous're doing." ask her for a java or something. Nothing that would hint to a date though. End the phoneconversation after near ten minutes, deed like you are seeing friends etc etc.
DO THIS. everything else will fail. Believe me.
#4
9 years ago
James.......take this fourth dimension, consider a blessing, learn, aggrandize on yourself, any your needs are (and in your serenity times yous know what they are). Things will work out, they may not be what you perceive at this moment, simply, they practise work out.
#v
9 years ago
Ok well I've tried everything so It isn't going to hurt to get NC but she'southward deleted me off facebook and it'south really annoying that she won't reply to my texts and has said she will never speak to me again ... Thanks for the assist though
#six
9 years ago
To tell you the truth, you f** it up.I cant believe all this bulls**** advices you lot get here... But no worries, it volition be fine. For start you must really,Really find out what you did incorrect. You lot were real a**hole, to tell you the truth, she said she wanted some time for college exams, you were insensitive every bit f*** and you actually blew her away...well you really pushed it too much, no wonder she never wants to talk to you again. Try to fill into her shoes, she is going trough hard higher exams, they are hard every bit they are and yet you lot throw fifty-fifty more burden with relationship and if that is not all, yous fifty-fifty broke up with her, thats like a sledgehammer correct into her face up, poor girl. You must understand that at present, its not about YOU, its about her, you totally crushed her, yet yous even so keep thinking well-nigh yourself. Why wont yous man upwardly, grow a pair of assurance and instead of saying sorry have action. For start acknowledge your fault,dont say sorry again considering it means zilch, admit that yous f** it up, say you went overboard and you lot are ready to face consequences of your actions, information technology may be rough, she will put a shitstorm on you, but well yous deserve it. Swallow your pride and have dignity,take whatever penalisation she has on yous,to tell you the truth, there is nil manlier for woman,then when human acknowledges his ain error, it takes balls to do that and women love balls.
And so when the shitstorm is over, offer her bounty, dont say what information technology is, keep it surprise. Over again recollect nigh HER, what she likes, its not almost you being with her, its nigh HER enjoying the compensation.Now you will take to programme something that will be out of ordinary for you two, brand it special, but non too special, go along it unproblematic. F*** the no contact, its simply bull**** manipulation, if you really love her, dont manipulate her. And if you lot wont pay at present, you will pay afterward and the more time will flow, she will make information technology worse for you. If she wont contact y'all after admiting your fault, then she is a bi*** and dump her...just thats unlikely.
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#7
9 years ago
I've done exactly what you lot've said now I guess I demand to let her chill out do some revision and what not ... I'm determined to get her back though ... It's all I've thought virtually ... Do you reckon I should wait until her exams are over until I contact her?
#8
ix years ago
But admit your mistake, yous were an equally****, that you blew it,that you were insensitive, that if she wants fourth dimension for the exams and then be it and you are ready to face the consequences, dont offer annihilation, dont plead, dont say distressing, just exit the message. It will throw the stone from her heart and after those exams either she will contact you, wich means she has some courage not that **** that she is not interested, or yous contact her once more. From in that location allow it flow naturally and offering her bounty, tell her you thought about it and desire to keep information technology surprise.
#9
9 years agone
Right ok thanks for the help I'1000 determined to go her dorsum!
#10
9 years agone
you didnt **** up.
If she deceit handle with the stress, its her fault and not your worry. Everybody in life is responsible for his own good.
So its not your duty every bit young man to worry nigh that. if she cant handle it, leave her
#xi
9 years agone
He did **** up, read it properly, she wanted time for exams, he got furious and dumped her, information technology was his fault that he couldnt command his anger.
Yep I would similar to see you, if you had exams and your girlfriend would nag to yous about going out, that she doesnt honey you and she would break up with yous. I would similar to see you lot study for exams with eye broken...
#12
9 years ago
Well, we all **** up sometimes. Merely please don't beat yourself up. You lot are human after all. Dearest is not rational and ultimate happiness has to come from within... and without. What I hateful is: exist happy near yourself, honey yourself, think of your strengths and not weaknesses (the later is but so free energy wasting)... Leave her alone for now... and empathize that until yous love yourself you cannot dearest anyone else truly...so showtime work on YOU. Take some dignity and do not beg... I am not saying that you should Not fight for what you want but don't make your happiness depend on it. Seems to me that she needs to work on herself equally well. What she did was insensitive and showed no respect for the relationship. Y'all need someone who add to your happiness and who is happy within therefore capable of loving yous without.. conditions...
Promise information technology helps... Take care of yourself and if you need to simply spend a twenty-four hours crying difficult, write down your feelings simply do not send them to her... I institute this the all-time therapy to just write how I feel and keep information technology individual, so release your hurting... 😊
#13
ix years ago
What the heck? Are you lot some furious feminist?
At-home down.
I'm proverb that it's non only he who **** up.
Of grade the OP was needy and clingy and ****, but it's not similar he murdered somebody. Information technology's not a criminal offence to be needy and ask for more than time with a girlfriend. It's his right. Eventually, she didn't take time because of her exam.
But she **** upwards also. It's immature to not wanting to talk to somebody anymore. It's non the way to handle things. That's why I told OP to not worry about it and let her go, respectively to leave her for skillful. She doesn't deserve his attention.
#fourteen
nine years ago
I don't program on ever letting her become I will become no contact for a while getting in bear upon with her but annoys her ... Until she has literally severed all ties at the moment and I'm still hopeful ... Is that wrong? I want her to talk to me not completely ignore me it's easier to set if she talks and she won't
#15
ix years ago
Thats a skillful idea, with the no contact.
I'thou not proverb this simply like that, because I'm going through the aforementioned stuff similar y'all right now. Even worse.
Y'all accept to question yourself if it's worth for you mantaining hope. She decided to initiate silence with you. She made you go through this. I wouldn't permit such a person in my life once more, never ever. Y'all accept to man up, accept your responsibilities.
#xvi
nine years ago
What the heck is incorrect with you ? Do y'all actually read what I write. Yes nosotros are human, but he **** up and the correct thing to do is admit it,non do this no contact manipulation ****, I wrote that if she doesnt respond even later that he admits information technology, she is a b**** and he should dump her. She is man too, she is adult female for **** sake, she is more than sensitive than you are you know, unless yous are extremelly feminine. I would beloved to run into if you lot were stressed the **** out and your girlfriend instead of being your backbone, would give yous the boots. And why should someone talk to you, when they would wipe you out of their life ?
#17
9 years agone
I've admitted I was wrong and nothing back withal ... Look I'grand scared that I've lost her forever and me trying to contact her does her head in I only want it all back and I'm finding information technology difficult to get
#18
9 years ago
Chill out human being, she wont reply in a 2d, it will have some fourth dimension from her side aswell, she volition need to talk to her girlfriends about it, talk to her manfriend nigh information technology, think about it,brand decision + those exams...only take some time off, find some time for yourself, live a footling.
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#nineteen
nine years agone
Ok but really she is the nigh amazing person 😊 and I don't wanna surrender
#20
nine years ago
James, you did the right thing. You admitted it to her. You apologized I guess for what you lot've washed.
That was even more than you should to. In fact, you should take just said "I'm sorry that I hurt you lot", but information technology's also fine like you did it. And going NC is the only right thing to do after apologizing, considering you audio really needy and clingy.
Guestman just said that this is no contact manipultation. That's not true. NO CONTACT IS In that location FOR You lot, TO SPEED Upward YOUR HEALING Procedure. not for her.
Oh and I know that woman are humans, too. But it's not a question wether she's a girl or not. It'south a matter nigh if she can handle things or not. She conspicuously can't, as it'south easier for her to maintain silence, instead of working out things together. In fact, many people do this. They aren't honest with themselves.
Don't worry if you lot lost her forever.
She is just another man.
It means that she doesn't appreciate what she had. You lot have to appreciate yourself start, before being appreciated by someone else. Get dignity, honesty. That'due south the primary reason why she left yous. She lost every respect for yous. And it hurts me even writing this. Because the aforementioned matter happend to me. I feel you. But NC helped me going through this, information technology'southward healing me faster than I thought. You can't see things at present with directly and rational eyes. But later everything will make sense. Stay strong, james.
#21
9 years agone
I recollect yous misunderstood me, I wrote about the "no contact" manipulation technique what some people suggested...of course she will need some time for herself, now no contact will exist all-time,even for you, I just wanted to tell him to avoid that "no contact" manipulation, that if he actually cares about her, he should avoid manipulation alltogether, that he needs to develop good for you human relationship.
#22
9 years ago
That's true. Nosotros need more than people who don't dispense each other. Unfortunately, this happens quite a lot during relationships. What I meet when I'm outside, it's heartbroken people who wait and walk similar zombies because either he or she manipulated for their ways. That's not healthy at all. Nosotros demand more honesty aye. But if one the sides already lied or manipulated in some kind, there isn't much to do about it, except, restricting yourself from this person who hurts y'all.
That'southward what I've been doing for 1 month now, since she left me for another guy. I'm through all this bull **** but NC is the only thing that really helps me. Not even other girls tin blow out this ache off my breast. It's impossible, gotta help myself to the max.
That'southward besides my advice for james.
#23
9 years agone
I am sorry to hear that, I know the hurting, I have been cheated on too, lied and decieved too. But you must go trough this, it will simply make you stronger in the end. Hurting is weakness leaving the body, remember this. It hurts, it really does, even more than than physical pain...but really think about it, you should be happy she left you, it may sound savage but would you lot want to dig deeper with such lying **** ? No she is non worth your fourth dimension, people come and become, we class bonds, we break them, life is like that, life is not-end stream, y'all either will get drowned or leap on it and flow with ease. I was too devastated when I was cheated on, lied to, etc. etc. merely in one case y'all become older and you lot gain more experience...you will see that its non that of import. Most important affair in your life is you, it may audio selfish merely world does go around you. At present I dont intendance if she will cheat on me, considering the sooner the amend and I will see if she is faithfull, I dont care if she will like me on engagement, because I am looking for partner, I dont care if she likes my personality or not, I dont intendance if she doesnt selection up phone sometimes, dont care if she is aroused about ****, because It doesnt matter at all. Its just vanity, its just waste of nerves and time. So exist at ease. Ofcourse I become upset or cry, but I will cry, go to slumber and when I wake up, its a new solar day, new <email> at present, dont live in by, dont live in future...promise this helps you, so simply laugh at that ****, forget her and go forward, its easier than you think.
#24
nine years ago
Ive calmed down alot now still got that horrible somethings missing feeling only yep life does go on ... I don't desire to requite up on her as she is amazing in due fourth dimension say after her exams I may ring her just to run across how she did show I still care and tell her I've got my drivers liscence and a new job and what not but only if she asks of course ... These changes haven't been made nonetheless but they will be 😊 I'm determined and motivated to sort myself out and I'grand hoping she'll miss me 😊 at showtime I'll play a piddling hard to get if it gets that far merely giving upwardly hope is merely similar giving up on yourself so I think information technology'southward better to just employ this as a motivation for now 😊
#25
9 years ago
There you go, however I think, personally I would wait to see if she contacts you lot later on her exams. Take the time you have to do the things Yous need to do, if she still wants you in her life she will brand that effort to contact you, and she volition appreciate the fact you gave her the space she required.
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#26
9 years ago
Information technology'due south good communication only after how much I pushed away I don't know if she will
#27
ix years ago
James, I never said yous hadn't dug a fairly deep pigsty for yourself. I simply think you lot need to let her make that showtime motion toward you, atleast you'll know and so you all the same have a glimmer of hope. Allow her decide what's best for her and accept that determination.
#28
9 years ago
You know James,if you want her back is to disappear for longer menses of time,some people want what they can't accept especially dumpers when dumpee has moved on because dumpers blindly assume that dumpee will waiting for them and be available for them but you have show her that y'all can be happy with or without her and another could take her place. People are very territorial so stick to No Contact.
#29
nine years ago
Ok 😊 so It'south like giving up but secretly your not?
#30
9 years ago
Just retrieve, let her cool off. If she makes contact. She'll be back either way even somehow downward the line if you start to like someone else. If take keep low contour not permit her know anything about what y'all're doing. Absence brand the heart grow fonder. Remember she could also exist toying with your emotions.But be a lilliputian wary of her.
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